More often than not, the truth can set you free, but sometimes it can kill you if you can't take it. And this might be one of those times. What you're about to read and try is likely to blow such a big hole through you and your spouse's denial that your relationship may not survive. And truly, if … [Read more...] about The Three Most Powerful Questions to Bring Back Trust and Intimacy
(for T.F.) These are the men who will bury him. The four men in this pleasant basement on a perfectly beautiful June day. They will rise from the comfortable circle they have formed and grab the gold handles of his casket, pick him up, carry him, lay him in the earth. He knows that. They all … [Read more...] about These Are the Men
In episode 20 of the STANDcast Dwayne Hayes, editor in chief of STAND magazine, is joined by Mitch Nobis and Jeff Wenzel to discuss advice they'd give to a guy who is struggling in his marriage. They recommend focusing on self-care, avoiding the need to be right, and share additional words of … [Read more...] about The STANDcast 20: “Dour” Advice to a Guy Struggling in His Marriage?
Told from the perspective of an unnamed twelve-year-old boy, Daniel Magariel’s debut novel is a darkly humorous and heart-rending story of a boy who accompanies his older brother and father as they escape their old life in Kansas to start anew in New Mexico, following a divorce and custody … [Read more...] about STAND Recommends One of the Boys by Daniel Magariel
A River Runs Through It, the 1992 film directed by Robert Redford, is based on the semi-autobiographical novella by Norman Maclean. This beautiful and haunting coming-of-age story about two brothers is set against the backdrop of early 20th-century Montana and the brothers’ love of fly fishing. The … [Read more...] about A Self-Portrait of Male Depression
It’s said that we teach what we want to learn. For more than 40 years I’ve been teaching people how to have successful marriages that remain passionate, loving, and creative through the years. Being a marriage and family counselor has been a satisfying career and I’ve helped thousands of couples. … [Read more...] about The Enlightened Marriage
When I married my wife in 2007 I fully expected to be in the running year in and year out for the “husband of the year” award. After all, this was my second marriage and certainly I’d learned a great deal over the years from my divorce. I was also now forty years old and I think it’s … [Read more...] about My Wonderful Wife and the Quest to Win a “Husband of the Year” Award
In 1999 my marriage to the woman I’d fallen in love with as a shy, teenage boy, ended after eight years. We’d just spent a year separated following a year together trying to work through our issues. These “issues” had been brought into the open once I felt that I was in love with another woman. … [Read more...] about The Five Things I Learned about Marriage after My Divorce