My hopes are to inspire dads to be the best men for their kids as possible. In doing so, I aim to be as authentic as possible.
41 years old
Los Angeles, CA
Inspiring men to embrace being dads by acknowledging the fact that none of us have fatherhood figured out. The main goal is to ensure our kids are alive, safe, and happy after each day, and if so, we win.
What inspired you to do what you do?
Mainly I talk about what it means to be a modern dad in America. In regard to my inspiration, it came from the fact that we suffered a miscarriage and I didn’t think I’d have the opportunity to be a dad. When we welcomed my oldest daughter into the world, I promised her that I’d be the best man/dad I could possibly be for her. About 18 months later, I shared my enthusiasm for fatherhood with the world by creating Daddy Doin’ Work. The rest is history.
What are your biggest fears and/or hopes around the work you are doing?
My hopes are to inspire dads to be the best men for their kids as possible. In doing so, I aim to be as authentic as possible. Sometimes people love me for it, and sometimes people dislike me for it — but I can sleep well at night knowing that I’m being true to myself.
I think I’m helping to share the memo that being a dad is way more than bringing home a paycheck and playing the occasional game of catch in the backyard. It’s about nurturing, showing up for doctor appointments and teacher conferences, doing hair, and being whatever in the world our kids need from us at any given moment. Thankfully due to social media, we’re able to see more examples of that than ever before.
Are there any men (past or present) you particularly admire or who have influenced you?
Absolutely. My dad and my two older brothers are the best influences I could ask for in terms of what it means to embrace fatherhood. My dad is a retired university professor, but he was always present to give us baths, feed us, read stories, and be completely involved in our lives when we were young (and even today). I couldn’t ask for a better role model. Fast-forward to today, my two brothers exemplify what it means to be a modern dad and I’ve learned so much from them.
What advice would you give to other men interested in doing what you do, or otherwise making a difference in their community?
Don’t expect it to be easy. Building a platform where people value and respect your opinion is difficult, and there will be a lot of haters and naysayers in your path. Instead of focusing on them, focus on the value you’re adding to the world. The more value you can add to the lives of others, the better your life will be.
What have you learned about yourself as a result of this work?
You can make a living doing what you love, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Before I started, I thought being a public speaker and author was just a pipe dream, but it’s my current reality. Dream big and don’t let anything or anyone get in your way.
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